Lauren shares her thoughts on how to deal with social media bullies and other social media tips

Today I’m answering another reader question as part of my Ask Me Anything August series here on I received a question to my inbox about how to deal with negativity on social media. Social media has the power to connect people from around the world and do a lot of good. But there’s no denying that there’s also a lot of negativity out there on the Web. When they are hidden behind a screen, people often say things that they would never say to someone’s face. It’s also a whole lot easier for certain posts to be misconstrued on social media or for arguments to escalate more quickly. So since it’s something we’ve all had to deal with at some point or another, here’s my advice for keeping it positive online…

When It’s Someone You Don’t Know or Aren’t Particularly Close With…

If it’s someone you don’t know very well (or at all) who is provoking an argument on social media, my very best advice is to ignore it and remove yourself from the situation. This can take a lot of self-control, but it really is your best option. Think about it: what good is getting into a fight with a stranger on the Internet going to do? Chances are it’s only going to make you feel more frustrated. If you need to, you can block or un-friend the person who is causing problems. They might notice that you blocked them, but if this isn’t someone you know in real life, the argument will end there. On occasion I’ve had to deal with Internet trolls posting negative comments on my Instagram, and I immediately block them. My motto is: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t follow me online. I always make an effort to keep it positive, and I expect the same from my followers.

When It’s Coming From a Friend…

If the negativity is coming from a close friend whose relationship you value, take the discussion offline. Call your friend up or suggest you meet for coffee to get to the root of the problem. It’s so hard to tell where someone is coming from online and things can often be misconstrued. You can’t always tell someone’s tone or what they really meant to say. In my personal experience, arguments between friends are always solved much more quickly in person than over social media, email, or even by text. When you hear someone’s voice or see them in person, you remember everything that you love about them.

Anyway, I hope that advice helps! This is also a good reminder for all of us to always be kind online and to only put positive energy out there. Being a cyber bully yourself is the only thing worse than being on the other end of it, in my opinion.

Would you like to hear my advice on any other topics?

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XO Lauren

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  • I’d have to say that I agree with most of what you’ve said Lauren, but I’d have to add, that some people need to be taken to task for what can only be described as objectionable behaviour. As you’ve said, this can take a fair amount of self-control and will power sometimes, but mostly as I’ve found, it’s also about knowing which battles to fight and which to let sail on by.

  • I love this post. Something that hasn’t really been taught throughout social media is that you should never really worry about what others think of you. My favourite saying is “if they don’t know you well enough to have your mobile number, then their opinion doesn’t mean anything.” and it’s so true. Those who hate on you through their screens only see what’s on their screen, they never really give themselves a chance to get to know you as a person. It’s so frustrating…loved the post Lauren!

  • Jess Mahony

    This needs to be talking about alot! Because all the negativity on social media causes bad things at the end of the road. I have deactivated my social media account due to this! X

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  • Thank you so much for sharing these great tips Lauren 🙂 It’s important to share love and positivity on social media. I’m really glad you touched on this topic because negativity on social media is always present, and it’s good to be able to have ways to deal with it <3

    XO, Elizabeth

  • I’m planning to move to California in the next 2 months to join my boyfriend out there. I’ll be leaving all my family and friends. As lame as it sounds, I feel like in this day and age of social media/phones, it’s really hard to meet friends. So with that I ask, how to meet friends in a new city?

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