Kelsey Murphy is a professional and personal coach. Her passion is helping people build a life jam-packed with fulfillment, success, and great relationships. You can find her on KelseyMurphy.com. Today Kelsey is sharing her tips on how to get the most out of your New Year’s resolutions and revamp your morning routine…
Hey LC readers! It’s Kelsey Murphy here. Today I’m here to tell you that if you only have room for one New Year’s resolution, this should be it: Create a new morning routine. Your morning sets the tone for the entire rest of the day. And I’m not talking about jam-packing the 5 AM hour by running 10 miles, meditating, and downing green juice. I’m talking about simple daily rituals that can change everything from the closeness you feel with people in your life, to finally going on that adventure you just can’t stop dreaming about.
It starts with the simple concept of a morning routine. Mornings are our moment of truth. They are raw and honest; a time when we’re not distracted by our day-to-day to do list. In the morning, we can truly face ourselves and focus on the meaningful things. Think of it as your moment to reflect on the really important stuff—not just the, “I should get up an hour earlier to work out,” stuff. Mornings are the best and most sacred part of our day and should start with intention.
So, I’m challenging you to make 2016 your year of movement, love, and meaning. This is going to be a year where you wake up to your life and create the things you really want. So, set your alarm 15 minutes earlier for tomorrow and read my tips below to create your perfect, meaningful morning routine that will feel so lovely and entirely second nature within 30 days. You’ll wonder how you ever lived without it.
What are the five secrets to make this work? I am so glad you asked…
1. Start with how you want to feel.
Let go of the unimportant I-should-do-this goals and start listening to the way you truly want to feel. At the end of the day, everything we do is driven by the desire to feel a certain way. We want feel good, happy, loved, valued, smart, accomplished, sexy, desired. Get really clear on how you want to feel, then build a morning routine around that. You may realize that running that marathon isn’t as important to you this year as you thought—it might be something deeper, like feeling more love and closeness with your significant other.
2. A Simple 15 minutes is all it takes.
Sometimes when we introduce change or something new into our lives, we go full speed ahead and try to shoot for the stars. Then, when we don’t immediately reach that goal as quickly as we want to, we become overwhelmed and we quit. Often we forget that we need to learn to walk before we can run. When you train for a marathon, do you start with 30 miles? Nope. You start small. The small steps and the small moments are the stuff that make up the big steps and the big moments in life.
This week, let’s learn to walk before we get overwhelmed about the run. Start by scheduling 15 minutes for yourself tomorrow morning. You will feel confident in kicking off this routine with a simple, yet powerful 15 minutes of intention set aside for you.
3. Night before “trigger.”
We all start out with good intentions for our morning routines, but things will come up and our motivation will waiver. So here’s a little secret that will allow for success before you even crack those eyelids in the AM: Create yourself a “night-before trigger.” There’s fancy pants science behind the fact that we need a cue in order to create new habits—so let’s create one.
We’re already foggy, tired, and yes, a little grumpy in the morning. We don’t need anything else working against us… like finding our workout shoes, or figuring out how to meditate. We need that figured out the night before. My triggers usually include laying out cute workout clothes, scheduling my morning routine in my iCal, and putting a yummy candle and matches out on my desk. What will your triggers be?
This is my favorite part. It’s about using the fine china, and wearing sexier (albeit comfy) underwear. It’s about looking forward to your mornings, with a giant deep breath and a man-I-love-this-time smile. I realize we can’t always use the fine china, we’ve got kids and dishes and all sorts of other excuses, but I do find it important to feel a little pampered sometimes. Get yourself a delightful new coffee mug or a beautiful new journal from your favorite designer for your gratitude practice. Let’s start making your morning routine so lovely that you would be sad to miss it.
5. Inspire those around you.
We all just created new morning routines in our Whiskey & Work group. Some were intense and physical, others were soft and emotional, but all were powerful and incredibly inspiring. That’s the thing—your morning routine is so unique to you. Some of the girls started sharing this new endeavor around their offices and they noticed how intrigued others were. So much so that their co-workers actually started creating new morning routines for themselves. It was that contagious.
Will you create a morning routine that will set your day on fire with love and intention?
I can’t wait to hear about it, so let me know in the comments!