Wedding Bells: How to Choose Your Bridal Party

After William and I got engaged and the wedding planning began, I had a very important decision to make; I needed to choose who would stand up with me while I said, “I do”. For me, choosing my bridesmaids (and then asking them to be in my wedding party) was one of the most fun parts of the planning process. I’m so lucky to have a group of besties that I love dearly, and I wanted each and every one of them up there with me on my big day.

When it came time to choose my ‘maids, my motto was the more the merrier. I didn’t mind the idea of having a large bridal party… to a point (you don’t want more people standing up than in seats!). It really is a personal preference, and I knew that having a bigger bridal party with all of my best friends was the way to go. So, I chose my sister and a bunch of my besties to do me the honor of being my bridesmaids, and I couldn’t be happier with my decision.

If you do have a larger bridal party like I do (I have 10 bridesmaids!), there are some logistical things that you’ll have to take into consideration. Is there enough room for all of your ‘maids to stand up with you? If the answer is no, you don’t necessarily need to cut down your list of bridesmaids, in my opinion. You can simply have them sit in the front row! One lesson I’ve learned about planning a wedding is that the bride and groom should do things however they want. Some rules are meant to be broken, right?

Now, all of your besties might not live in the same state (let alone the same coast as you), but that doesn’t mean that they should be excluded. My advice? Include your far away friends anyways, even if they won’t be able to take part in all the activities. I also think it’s a good idea to take into consideration people who are going to be in your life for a long time, like your partner’s sister(s) or best friends.

Of course, this is a very personal decision, and every bride has to do what works for her. Remember, this is your wedding day. If you want 15 bridesmaids, go for it. If you only want two, you can do that too. This special day only happens once, and you want to make sure it’s everything you’ve dreamed of.

For all of you brides or brides-to-be…

How did you choose your bridal party?

Do you have any other advice to add?

Share it in the comments!

XO Lauren

Photos: Martha Stewart Weddings
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    So, my fiance has a step brother (son of his mom’s boyfriend). His mom has been with the guy for approximately 12 years. In our teens we hung out with the step brother often, but over the years we’ve grown up and grown apart.
    On top of it, the step brother struggles with an alcohol and drug problem.
    My fiance at first did not want to have him, but after hearing opinions of others and taking the time to think about it he now says he is thinking he might want him included.
    I am very worried about the step brothers condition the day of should he be a groomsman – drunk before the ceremony even happens, inappropriateness in pictures, ect.
    That being said, I do have one girl I think I would like to add to my maids.

    ADVICE !?

  • Marie

    Although we don’t have much in common, I want to include my fiance’s sister in my wedding party because she has always been kind and treated me like a sister. My fiance’s sister-in-law however has not been welcoming to me and is not well liked by any of his groomsmen other than his brother(her husband). Not to mention she is notorious for causing all kinds of drama. I would feel weird having someone up there with me that I don’t like but on the other hand I live in the south and my fiance’s crazy sister-in-law is close with his mom and puts on a front that she is kind and loving at family events. Do I risk the drama and annoyance she will cause as a bridesmaid and be “the bigger person” or do I risk the drama she will cause if I exclude her and limit my party to the people I love? HELP PLEASE!