Wedding Bells: My Guest List Rule

As you might remember from the wedding planning timeline, drafting your guest list is one of the first steps after you get engaged. The number of guests affects everything from your budget to your venue choice, so it’s important to have an approximate headcount before you get too far into the planning process.

Deciding who makes the cut can be very difficult, which is why I came up with a few guidelines for drafting my own guest list. In an ideal world I would invite everyone who has ever been a positive part of my life. But of course that’s just not possible and the guests add up faster than you can imagine. So here’s what I came up with…

My Guest List Rule

I have one hard and fast rule: If we haven’t sat down and had a meal together in the past two years, you’re probably not going to be invited. Since all of my close friends and I dine together regularly, this helps separate the people I’m still close with from the friends I’ve lost touch with over the years. I think it’s a pretty fair rule.

The Plus-One

I also had to come up with some guidelines for determining who gets a plus-one. A plus-one is a must for anyone who is married, engaged, or in a long-term relationship. No exceptions there! A plus-one is also thoughtful for anyone who is single, but won’t have any other friends attending. But if someone is single and will be amongst friends or family, giving them a plus-one is not necessary. Who knows, they might meet someone special…

Deciding who will and won’t be there to witness your marriage can be very stressful, but everyone is different and will have their own way of deciding. Also, it’s important to remember that once you’ve finalized your list then the fun begins. Cake tasting anyone?

If you’re married or engaged, what’s your rule for narrowing down your guest list?

Also, what other Wedding Bells posts would you like me to write?

Please share your thoughts below!

XO Lauren