Wedding Bells: 5 Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids

Wedding Bells: 5 Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids

Hi everyone, it’s Alex and today I am back with a new Wedding Bells post about creative ways to “propose” to your bridesmaids… 

With the advent of Pinterest, it seems that everything us ladies do must be—how do I put this—pin worthy. Even a task as simple as asking your besties to be your bridesmaids has turned into a creative event. That said, when it was time for me to ask my girls to be a part of my special day I thought long and hard about the various ways I could ask them and I figured many of you might be mulling over the same thing! For today’s newest edition of Wedding Bells I will be sharing 5 creative and thoughtful ways to ask your bridesmaids
Wedding Bells: 5 Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids

  1. Ask with a card. When it was time for me to ask my bridesmaids to be my go-to girls for my wedding, I decided to create a custom card (pictured above) that proposed the question. (If you want to keep it easy, check out BHLDN—they have a nice assortment of “Will You Be My Bridesmaid” cards.) I also presented each of my girls with a small piece of jewelry from one of my favorite jewelry designers; every bauble was different to reflect each maid’s personal style. Asking with a card is a simple and sweet way to pop the question. As a matter of fact, my fellow Team LC member, Ilana, also asked her maids in the form of a card…but her card was 3D! How cool is that? Click here to check it out.
    Wedding Bells: 5 Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids
  2. Surprise adventure. Whether it’s asking your maids out to brunch and surprising them by popping the question or doing a day at the spa, taking your girls for an unexpected outing and asking them all at once is a great way to invite them to be a part of your big day.
    Wedding Bells: 5 Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids
  3. Provide a prep kit. If you consider yourself a crafty gal, this might just be the perfect idea for you: Put together a “bridesmaid emergency kit” for each of your girls. Fill each kit with all the necessities they will need to not only get you down the aisle in one piece (blister bandages, fashion tape, eye drops), but also some items to help them maintain their peace of mind (aspirin, gum, a mini bottle of bubbly). Then present each of your girls with the kit and ask them to be your bridesmaid!
    Wedding Bells: 5 Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids
  4. Say it with something sweet. Who doesn’t like an excuse to indulge in a yummy cupcake? When I spotted this DIY on how to make ombré cupcakes in a jar on Marry This, I just knew I had to share the idea… Invite your girls out to brunch and place a cake jar at each of their place settings…once they sit down and realize what’s in front of them they will be pleasantly surprised!
    Wedding Bells: 5 Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids
  5. Hang it out. Order personalized hangers (you can find dozens of them on Etsy) for each of your would-be maids. Add a special touch by attaching a handwritten note to each hanger upon delivering it to your girls. The best part? All of your maids can hang their bridesmaids dresses from the hangers on the day of the wedding…can you say cute photo op!?

Have you been a bridesmaid? How were you asked? Or if you’re a bride, how did you ask your maids? I would love to hear about it so please sound off below!

Xx Alex

P.S. For more wedding-related content, be sure to check out the Wedding section here on the site for everything from what to do when you’re newly engaged to a detailed wedding planning timeline and even a complete breakdown on wedding party responsibilities plus more!

Photos: Alex Gariano, Wedding Chicks, Betty Crocker, Hangers By Me via Etsy, Marry This
Illustration: Carrie Beth of Sugar B Designs
Categories: Alex Gariano, Wedding
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  • Monica_in_Heels

    awesome ideas! Cute pictures as always!

  • Ashley

    Great ideas… all “”pin worthy”” :)

  • Lauren Baldini

    I painted the stems of wine glasses with chalkboard paint and wrote bridesmaid or maid of honor on them. Then on a plain gift bag I bought letter stickers and spelled out “”will you be my. . .”” and decorated the bag with some fun scrapbook stickers. In the bag I included the wine glass, a small bottle of wine and a corkscrew! My girls all loved it and they can reuse the wine glasses and corkscrew for years to come!

  • Dana Hall

    When I was the bride I sent flowers and cards to all my girls asking them to be in my wedding party. The next year I was in 5 wedding parties so I am definitely familiar with the topic. A friend bought a blank puzzle and used markers to create the message and so you had to put your puzzle together to find out that she wanted you in her wedding. Now her and I write a blog about creative gifts so check it out!

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  • Jamie Gage

    I was asked to be a bridesmaid by my best friend with a personalized hanger! I love it and will definitely be using it again after the wedding in October. All these ideas are great!

  • Stacie

    Every time I’ve been a bridesmaid, my friends have just asked.

  • Alena

    It’s cute but its getting way over the top. You gotta ask them in a special way? Taking them out to a nice restaurant seems perfectly fine! Now the trend is to have a groom’s cake as well… geeze

  • Deanne Castro

    I absolutely love these ideas! Thanks for sharing! :)

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  • Katelin Absher

    So cute!! I asked my maids by giving them a bottle of wine with a special note typed elegantly on ivory linen paper and tieing on the bottle with a big ivory tulle bow. It was very pretty!!

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  • My Style Diary

    These ideas are really cute!

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  • Amanda Kennedy

    my best friend asked me with a bottle of champs with a personalized label! the label had a photo of us and written on it said “”1 more question to pop… will you be my maid of honor?”” with the wedding date on it as well! It was so sweet!

  • Rachel Trampel

    These are SERIOUSLY so cute! I can’t wait to ask my bridesmaids someday. Some live far away, so a card will probably be the best thing I can do!

  • Cynda House

    My Best Friend sent a little card in the mail saying that we have dreamed of this for a long time and I couldn’t do this with out you… be my bridesmaid!! it was wonderful and sweet and I was so excited!

  • Deana Toussi

    I was recently asked with a care package that included a handmade card that said “”Will You Be My”” and a cute lace tanktop with rhinestones on the front that says Bridesmaid (all coordinated to her wedding colors) and she also included a wine topper (because she included a coaster invitation to her Stock-The-Bar engagement party). So cute!

  • Zoe g. Bullard

    My bridesmaids live all over (I even have one in Africa!) so there wasn’t a way to give them each the same thing. I proposed to two in person with ring pops, sent a custom tote bag to my MOH, sent a video message to my friend in Africa, and sent handmade cards to the rest. I wish I could have given them all the same thing, but it was fun to have more personal options too!

  • Megan R.

    I love the cake idea and it is so each to make:) I also did a similar post on creative ways to ask your bridesmaids that you can check out on my blog:

    Megan – The Preppy Planner

  • Ashley Ward

    As simple and cute the card idea is, I love the prepper box! You can fill so many sentimental and cute items in there, as well as a card that asks to be your brides maid. All of these ideas are great… storing them for future! 😉

  • Donna Hale

    Great ideas!! I’m planning on taking all mine out to brunch and asking them all at once so they can get to know each other too!


  • T Girl

    I still Think the best way I have ever seen was how Anna from Fash Boulevard did it. Wish it would have been listed here seems odd that it’s not is she still guest blogging?

  • Paola Alfaro

    Definitely love the card and the prep kit! so pretty and classy.

  • Sarah @ Sequin Doll

    I was visiting my friend (who lives in another state) and when I came down in the morning she had a champagne glass etched with “”bridesmaid”” along with a mini bottle of champagne and a note. It was very sweet :)

  • Tiffani Stuart

    I love the Bridesmaid’s Prep Kit idea & the Hangers! I didn’t think I would love the Hanger idea, until I could envision the photo opp! That would be awesome… Of course, I’ve been a bridesmaid several times, so I should have an opinion! lol

  • Jessica

    I love the store Lush, and many of my bridesmaids do too, so I bought each a bath bomb, wrapped it up with a little tag that said “”you’re the bomb!! Will you be my bridesmaid?”” :)

  • Jessica

    I also loved what my sister in law did when she asked me to be in her wedding. She gave me a customized Mrs. Field’s cookie that said “”bridesmiad?”” on it! Delicious and adorable!

  • NidLid

    These are such cute ideas!

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  • Leanne

    I love the prep kit boxes! I’ve seen a few on a couple blogs and I think they’re so personal and so precious, I’d love to be given one of those!

    Love from South Africa

  • Ella Gillespie

    My best friend asked asked me last October with a gigantic fake crystal ring in a box and said ‘will you do me the honor of being Maid of Honor’… haha so corny but totally loved it! 😉

  • Julie M

    I just popped the question to my gfs yesterday! I ordered cupcakes and had them write on a piece of chocolate “”will you be my bridesmaid/maid of honor?”” They topped the cupcake with the chocolate and packaged the cupcakes in a cute box with bow =) My girl friends were sooo surprised and they all said yes!

  • Sofia Alleyne

    good post. keep posting stuff like this. thanks

  • Taylor Ackert

    I was inspired by the prep box above after seeing it on Pinterest. I decided to make my own nautical / beachy prep boxes to ask my bridesmaids. I asked them over for wine and fondue and then presented them each with a box. The boxes included a book about Newport, a nautical notebook, a countdown calendar with important dates, bridesmaid dress ideas, our venue information, a few shells, a starfish, and vintage mermaid bottle opener from Pottery Barn! They loved them! Check out the pictures of them on my blog!

  • Olive0y1

    I got married last March with a destination wedding and this is how I asked my bridesmaids 😀

  • RachelRadschlag

    i got some wine labels printed that said “”I couldn’t say I DO without you””

  • Erika Bassaraba

    I painted them a picture of a place that meant something to both of us. For example my friend hid in a near by bush and took pictures of my now husband asking me to marry him. So i painted a picture of that lake and wrote on the back what her friendship meant to me and asked her if she could be my bridesmaid.

  • sunsets829

    The personalized hangers are so cute! I can’t believe I’ve never heard of them until now. Such a creative & unique idea to update a hanger!
    My personal favorite is the prep kit- probably the best idea I’ve seen for asking bridesmaids. I am looking forward to giving these out to my own. Thank you for the tips!

  • Tenleysmomma

    Love this, thanks!

  • Bunny24

    So glad I found this post! I’ve known these girls for so long and wanted something special for them. Thanks for posting!

  • SassySarah

    These are such good ideas! I plan on asking my bridesmaids through a “treasure hunt” around our hometown with balloons and clues to different locations ending at my house where I will stand with a cake that asks the question. My mom decorates cakes and has agreed to make each girl an individual cake so each of them can do a different hunt with me by their side.

  • Eliza

    Okay the spa idea is so cute. I’m pretty sick of all of the saccharine pinterest ideas, but think this is precious. Asking them all individually to get a manicure with me would turn out to be a little surprise for all of them bc we all get to hang out unexpectedly. Love it! Great idea!

  • Lara

    One of my girlfriends sends me post cards from all of the places she travels (I have a goal to get a postcard from each state) and in one of them she said she saw had one of the most memorable times in her life and she wanted me to be part of another one…and asked if I would be her bridesmaid. It was very sweet, and sentimental to me :)

  • Zoe

    I was a bridesmaid last summer and the bride asked us by making us personalized boxes with our names on them. in each box was a bottle of nail polish, a small picture frame, three paint swatches (to give us an idea of the color scheme – pink blue and purple – and as an idea of what color our dresses should be) and three cards that told us everything we needed to know and a necklaces with our initial on them. It was so cute and personal and made everything about the wedding fun



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