Every few weeks I check my inbox here on the website and while I cannot respond to each and every message, I thought it would be nice to offer advice and answer questions in a new blog series called, Ask Lauren. To kick things off, I decided to answer a question that a member messaged me. (For the sake of privacy, she will remain anonymous.) Today’s topic is one that I think a lot of us can relate to…

My best friend chose her boyfriend over me and we’ve been best friend since seventh grade. We don’t talk anymore or anything; she has changed her entire self for her boyfriend… How do I deal with losing my friend?

I think this is both a difficult and common situation that best friends often find themselves in. It can be really hard to be the number one priority in someone’s life and then suddenly feel like you have been replaced.

Speaking as someone who has been on both sides of this situation I can understand why your feelings would be hurt. I think the most important thing to remember is that when you are young, guys come and go, but real friends are forever. Sometimes we have to let our friends enjoy the beginning of a relationship knowing that we won’t get to have as much time with them.

It took me a while to learn this, but its something that will be returned when you meet a great guy and want to be swept away for a while. My advice would be to do your best to be happy for her and just give her a little time. Then, if nothing changes just be honest about the way you are feeling. Let her know that you miss her.

Do you guys have advice on this topic?

Also, if you need advice on a sticky situation, leave me a comment below. Or if you’d rather your question be answered anonymously, send me a private message by visiting my profile page and clicking “Send private message.”

While I cannot answer everyone’s questions, I’ll do my best to pick topics that you will be able to relate to.

XO Lauren

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  • jessa

    What horrible advice. Cut the bitch off. Clearly a dick in her mouth is more important than a friendship since childhood. I’m sorry I wouldn’t date anyone that made me “choose”. Just like you have time for shopping, or sex, or hair appointments, or coffee, or exercise, then your friend can easily be in that list of “priorities”.

  • Boluwatife

    Hello Lauren, I am currently enduring this unfortunate situation right now,though it is a lot .more complex, my friend is dating her younger sister’s ex and her sister is obviously against itt, I warned both my friend and her boyfriend about the consequences of their actions but my friend has completely cut me out, I am very angry with her, but I don’t want to offend her

  • Fher

    One of my best friend just broke up our relationship of 17!years. She introduced me to her friend’s boss. (Friend is a guy she liked and was sleeping with)….the guy ended up their “relationship” stating she was only being used to get his boss a girlfriend…I ended up dating this guy a little before this drama began and we both like each other and would like to continue with the relationship. No my friend said she will no longer continue being my friend as long as I am with him since it will remind her of what she went through for my happiness. She is very upset at me and feels betrayed. (This is my first relationship in years) and I feel happy. Don’t know what to think.