When you want to get a guy’s attention, it’s natural to pull out all the stops. You act sweeter, dress sexier, and are more accommodating all with the hope that he’ll fall madly in love with you.
Did you know this is actually the WORST way to get a man to feel romantic about you? He may be thankful that you make the dinner reservations, buy him gifts, or even do his laundry, but this behavior can also come off as smothering. Next thing you realize you’ve landed in the Friend Zone, a dark pit of frustration from which there is no escape.
Here are some tips to inspire his romantic side instead:
1. Don’t Give More Than You Receive
Turn the dial down on your showering of affection. A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives. All of that attention and gift giving makes him think of you as a friend or even a mother (creepy!) instead of a romantic interest.
2. Don’t Be Exclusive Unless He Is Too
Define. The. Relationship. If you aren’t his one and only then don’t make him yours. Keep your options open. This way, you keep your class, your power, your boundaries, and he has to work to get you!
3. Don’t Plan Dates
This is not your responsibility even if you think that if you don’t you will never go anywhere nice have faith that your guy will come around and do the right, and romantic, thing. A woman who can respect a man enough to not try to “pick up the slack” for him is the woman he falls in love with.
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