The Dating Game: To Text or Not to Text?
Here's the scene: You just went out with a cute guy on a great date. Things were left on a positive note and the following day you want to text him. Or maybe not because that would seem too needy...or maybe yes because it was such a perfect night! Ah!!! Do you text him or not?
I think it's safe to say that this is one of the most common topics during Sunday brunch with my friends. Personally, I always prefer to play it cool. I know it may seem old fashioned, but I think a guy should be the first to text. That said it's always good to feel out the situation. If you and "lover boy" have a mutual friend, ask your friend if they heard anything about the date. Otherwise, I think it's best to hold out. If you do decide to text him and don't get a response, it's safe to assume that he isn't as into it as you are. At this point, delete his number and move on.
What do you do when you've just gone on a great date with a guy and he hasn't called or texted you two days after your night out? Would you text him?
Have any more "Dating Game" questions for me? Leave them in the comments below.
XO Lauren
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I tote agree on the old-fashioned side of things. If he wants to talk to you, he will find a way. If he doesn't, he won't. To get over that waiting around feeling, just busy yourself to where he does not occupy your mind so much. Find a hobby. Hang out with friends. Don't dwell on it. And if it's a no, sucks to suck, but move on! Don't expend unnecessary energy being sad when you can have fun with another guy. -
I tote agree on the old-fashioned side of things. If he wants to talk to you, he will find a way. If he doesn't, he won't. To get over that waiting around feeling, just busy yourself to where he does not occupy your mind so much. Find a hobby. Hang out with friends. Don't dwell on it. And if it's a no, sucks to suck, but move on! Don't expend unnecessary energy being sad when you can have fun with another guy.
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I tote agree on the old-fashioned side of things. If he wants to talk to you, he will find a way. If he doesn't, he won't. To get over that waiting around feeling, just busy yourself to where he does not occupy your mind so much. Find a hobby. Hang out with friends. Don't dwell on it. And if it's a no, sucks to suck, but move on! Don't expend unnecessary energy being sad when you can have fun with another guy.
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I tote agree on the old-fashioned side of things. If he wants to talk to you, he will find a way. If he doesn't, he won't. To get over that waiting around feeling, just busy yourself to where he does not occupy your mind so much. Find a hobby. Hang out with friends. Don't dwell on it. And if it's a no, sucks to suck, but move on! Don't expend unnecessary energy being sad when you can have fun with another guy.
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Dear Lauren,
So I've been texting this guy. he didn't my number directly but, my mom gave me his number to text him. I texted him first he did respond afterwards. But Im the one to start the conversation the next day. I'm sure that he does like me. I need some advice and thank you. -
Dear Lauren,
So I've been texting this guy. he didn't my number directly but, my mom gave me his number to text him. I texted him first he did respond afterwards. But Im the one to start the conversation the next day. I'm sure that he does like me. I need some advice and thank you. -
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I would wait until the next day, and maybe around lunchtime send a text saying "Thanks for dinner last night. I had a good time". Simple and not tooo needy and then HE has the chance to say..."lets do it again. Then if you dont hear from him, then it wasnt meant to be, and you were polite and didnt come off too interested. I am old fashioned but at the same time, guys have the same insecurities that we do and do feel rejected if someone doesnt show interest, so I think if you had a good time, there is no harm in admitting it.
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Hi Lauren,
I like this guy and we are getting along quite well. He got my number from my friend and he makes me feel like more of a woman than any other guy I have ever talked to. I enjoy the times we see each other, talk, or text. He gives wonderful advice and told me that he likes me way before I told him. I'm doing my best to follow these rules, but they begin to take over my mind. I don't want to ruin it by texting him too much, so I hold off on responding right away sometimes. I try and keep it cordial because I never know what his next move is. This is an adventure for me because I have never been through this before. I want to know if these things are normal in the "beginning of the getting to know someone stages." Thank you in advance.
Courteously,
Asmaa Attieh -
So I have this guy in my life that is my ex and has been my best friend before we dated & after, but we had a little falling out because he broke 2 promises; 1. that our realationship would never mess up our friendship if we didn't last, 2. that out new boyfriends or girlfriends wouldn't get in the way of our friendship. He is really improtant to me & i know deep down inside i'm important to him & I want our friendship back. What should I do?
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Totally agree, they should be the first to send the message, and if they do ... "It was nice to meet you" and move on. -
HEY LAUREN ITS KELLY S. I HAVE SOME PROBLEMS WITH MY BF AND I. SO THIS IS MY STORY... WE LOVE TO TEXT AND FACEBOOK EACHOTHER. 1. HE TELLS ME THAT HE NEEDS SPACE BECAUSE HE ISNT DOING GOOD IN SCHOOL, SO HE TELLS ME THAT HE WANTS SPACE FROM US FOR 2 DAYS. SO I GIVE HIM HIS 2 DAYS OF SPACE. THEN WE TEXT MESSAGE AGAIN AND HE SAYS THAT I BUG HIM. SO I ASK HIM HOW DO I BUG YOU AND HE SAYS BECAUSE YOU KEEP HITTING ME UP. SO I SAID LETS MAKE A RULE OF HOW MUCH SPACE DO YOU NEED? SO WE HAVE DECIDED THAT HE WANTS 2 WEEKS OF SPACE STARTING NOVEMBER 5TH 2012 AND THEN I TEXT HIM AGAIN ON THE NOVEMBER 18TH 2012? WHAT DO I SAY ON NOVEMBER 18TH 2012? SO I ASKED HIM DO YOU WANT TO LOOSE ME AND HE TELLS ME NO. SO AFTERWORDS HE SAYS HE WILL TEXT ME BACK ON THE 18TH OF NOVEMBER. P.S. WRITE BACK
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Lauren: How do I get a date? I recently became single, after being in a relationship for 9 years. I got no idea how to meet new men and get a date, and I feel really insecure when it comes to dating. I was 16 years old when my ex and I got together, and I got no experience in the dating game at all.
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What do you do when you've just gone on a great date with a guy and he hasn't called or texted you two days after your night out? Would you text him?
The answer to that is goodbye to you, dream date. Men will sometimes not call just to see if you will react! I personally think games are childish..but if you run into the guy out later and he is suddenly interested, you'll know the chase is on and the ball is in your court at that point. -
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i like a guy for this moment. i don't know him . i just see him every morning in the bus what i do to attract his attention? please help :)
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heeelp! i've had this 'friends with benefits' thing going on with this guy for about 4 months now. He treats me like his gf but everytime i hit him up about it he says we are just friends and says he will try stop being more than friends, but that never happens we always end up together.We both like each other but i think he is just scared of a relationship as he just got out of a long one. We are in the same circle of friends and i just want to forget about him but he always texts me. :( xo
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NOT TO TEXT ! lol
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