Ask Lauren: How Do I Meet Mr. Right?
Today's question comes from an anonymous member who sent me a private message. I think that a lot of you single ladies will be able to relate and I hope you find my advice in today's Ask Lauren post helpful. Here goes...
I am having a hard time meeting new guys. I work a full time job Monday thru Friday, 9-5 and don't have a lot of time to go out during the week. On the weekends I usually end up going out to the bars... and am starting to feel like it's not really the best environment to meet my next potential boyfriend. Everyone (including myself) is pretty drunk and not really looking for a long term connection with someone rather more along the lines of a one night connection. Since you know LA pretty well, I was wondering if you could give me some advice on where to go to meet nice, smart, attractive guys with good jobs.
I was just having this conversation this morning over breakfast with some girlfriends. So many smart, beautiful girls with full time jobs struggle with where to meet a great guy. I think the best way to meet someone you are compatible with is doing something you really enjoy.
Now, when I say something that you enjoy I don't mean shopping, visiting a farmers market or taking a cooking class. These are things that men do for women, but don't necessarily enjoy doing by themselves. (Yes there are exceptions, but for the most part dudes aren't waking up early on Sunday morning to pick up some organic kale chips and a juice.) Instead, try out activities that you enjoy and think a guy would like too. If you enjoy watching sports (you don't have to be a fanatic) try a sports bar with a couple friends. If you enjoy music, a low-key show is a great place to meet a guy. If you like art then try finding local art shows to attend. The bottom line is, don't drag yourself to places just to meet a guy. Do things that you love and hopefully you will find someone who can enjoy them with you. If nothing else you'll have a great time until you find Mr. Right.
Do you have any suggestions for today's question? Sound off in the comments below.
XO Lauren
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Great advice, Lauren! There's also another option: online dating! A lot of people have used online dating services to meet the right person for themselves. If you know exactly what type of guy you want, you should definitely give it a shot. Often times, people who didn't have a great experience with online dating are those who didn't really know what they want. :) Xo -http://www.funfundate.com -
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I have to say, I "searched" for years and found "the love of my life" at work, and knew the first time I saw him, "he was the one"!!! (Even tho it took 3+ years to get together) -
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what do you do if you think you have met "mr. perfect" but of course ruined it...
how do you undo what you have done ?
how do you get him back ? -
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Hello, i am pamela
well, i am not living in LA. yet, i can imagine how's the night life there. For sure, there's no place that can guarantee you to find someone good. Maybe, there are some good guy there that you have not get along with.
If you want someone who has good job, just look around at your work place. Maybe, there's a coworker who also interested in you :)
Sometimes love comes to you in unexpected place. good luck
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Okay, you work for a living, and that's perfectly fine! The week is for work, and school, etc. Weekends on the other hand are a time to go out on some dates! Instead of going out on the weekends and getting drunk, go on a date! my suggestion is ask your friends if they know any guys you would be interested in. Since you have no time during the week to search for Mr. Right, maybe try a dating site! Sometimes, dating sites aren't some peoples things because, people could not be who they really are. Take a chance! Meet up with him! You never know he could be love of your life! -
I like that you mention that you should do things that you like to do- but also think of a way to make it guy friendly. This is a really helpful guide to falling in love with the right person, check it out and let me know what you think!
Falling in Love With the RIGHT Person: http://www.liveitmag.com/how-to-fall-in-love-with-the-right-person/ -
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Honestly, I have to say that the theory that "you'll find him when you're not looking" is antiquated. You may say you're not looking, but, let's get real...you still are. There's nothing wrong with that. I was looking when I found my "Mr. Right." I was looking hard.
My advice? Don't try to be interested in things you're not; you can only keep up that facade for so long. I know that's not what Lauren was saying though. Just be yourself. Do what you normally do, but make an effort to talk to people and really get to know them. You never know when someone you meet will have a friend, brother, cousin who really IS perfect for you.
Don't stop looking. Just don't be desperate. And never, EVER settle. You deserve the best. -
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These days it is just way harder to find a right guy then twenty years ago. :-( Thanks to the internet, people are very un-social in real life.
xx
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Great advice! I believe you will find Mr.Right when you are not looking for him :) That's the beauty of this world! Enjoy life and when the time comes you will find him!
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I agree, working a full time job, especially in a new area like me, can make it hard to meet new people. But it makes it even harder to meet a new guy. I focus on things that I enjoy, and have met a lot of amazing people this way!
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Really that is great and i would like to add bookmark. How you can manage or advertise it. You should keep it up..
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Love this post! I go to this incredible, arty, eclectic church, so I am trying to get more involved, and I am hoping that one fruit of that is meeting a great guy who has the same beliefs and passions that I have!
Also-what is up with all the advertising! Super annoying! lol ;) -
I think this is a great advice!!! I used to look for Mr right everywhere and when I gave up I slowly started feeling comfortable and good in my own skin and on my own (meaning not "needing" a man to make me happy) and that's when I met my boyfriend, out of the blue without any expectations! We started going out first as friends and now I'm more in love than I've ever been and he's happy too! =D
Bottom line, don't force it! =D
xoRosie
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I'm in the exact same predicament, but honestly I don't do much about it.
xo
Rachelle
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hey lauren
my name is sasha,I live in L.A. I really adore you because i think you are such a sweet girl and i wish you the best...
KEEP UP YOUR GREAT WORK.
XO SASHA
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