Wedding Bells: Invitation Etiquette

Wedding Bells: Invitation Etiquette

After getting engaged, I couldn’t wait to begin planning my wedding. It’s been fun so far, but I’ve also realized how much work it can be. That said, I wanted to make things easy by sharing a few of my own planning tips and tricks on LaurenConrad.com this year. And today, I’m talking invitations.

When you’re selecting your wedding invitations, there’s a lot more to consider than just printing techniques and paper stocks. Just like every other step in the wedding planning process, there are rules of etiquette for how your invitations should be worded. There’s a lot to consider, but I tried to make things easy by breaking it down into bullet points. Without further ado, here’s everything you need to know about wording your wedding invitations…

Who’s Hosting?

Traditionally the bride’s parents are the hosts, but nowadays anything goes…

  • If the bride’s parents are paying for the bulk of the wedding costs, include their names on the invitation. For example, “Mr. and Mrs. Jim Conrad request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter Lauren Katherine to William Tell…”
  • If the groom’s parents are the ones hosting, include their names instead. In this case, the groom’s name can be listed before the bride’s.
  • If both sets of parents are contributing to the wedding equally, opt for the language, “Together with their families, Lauren Katherine Conrad and William Tell request the pleasure of your company at their marriage…”
  • If the couple is hosting, word your invitation like this: “Lauren Katherine Conrad and William Tell request the pleasure of your company at their marriage…”
  • You can honor the set of parents who are not hosting by including their names below the names of the couple, preceded by “son of” or “daughter of.”

When is it Happening?

  • Tradition dictates that you should spell out numbers in the date. I.e. “on Saturday, the second of June, two thousand and twelve.”
  • You should also spell out numerals in the times. If your wedding begins on the half-hour, use the language “half after five o’clock.”
  • Instead of saying P.M. or A.M. a formal invitation should say “in the morning” or “in the evening.”

Addressing Your Invitations

  • The names of married couples belong on one line (unless they won’t fit). The names of unmarried couples belong on two separate lines.
  • Spell out “street,” “avenue,” “apartment,” etc.
  • If you’re giving someone a plus one, try your best to find out the name of their guest and include it on the envelope.
  • Have the return address printed on the back flap rather than the upper left-hand corner.
  • Check out The Knot’s guide to addressing invitations for even more specifics.

A Few More Things…

  • The line-breaks on an invitation act as punctuation, so there’s no need for commas or periods. Only proper nouns and the first word of a line that stands alone need to be capitalized.
  • If your ceremony is in a church or temple, you can use the phrase “request the honor of your presence” instead of “request the pleasure of your company.”
  • Jewish weddings traditionally invite guests to the wedding of the bride “and” the groom. Christian and Catholic weddings invite guests to the wedding of the bride “to” the groom.
  • Want to let guests know what to wear to your event? You can include an optional attire line in the bottom right hand corner. Options include black-tie, black-tie optional, beach formal, and cocktail attire.
  • Never include mentions of a registry on the wedding invitation. It’s considered rude.

I hope that helps! If you have any friends who are getting married, be sure to send them a link to this post. And, pin the image above to your Pinterest wedding board so you can pull up these facts the next time you need them!

What would your dream wedding invitations look like?

XO Lauren

Sources: The Wedding Book: The Big Book for Your Big Day, The Knot

Photo: The First Snow

Categories: Etiquette, Lauren Conrad, Wedding
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  • http://www.emilyehammond.com Emily

    What about if you do not want guests to brings gifts and would want to request a monetary gift? This article at Huffington Post had some interesting insight:
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/22/wedding-etiquette_n_2926367.html#slide=2248091

  • fiona

    HI Lauren! So helpful! What about including the wedding website on the invite? Would that be rude as well? We are not doing save the dates, so this is really the only way to convey the information. Lemme know what you think! Thanks!

  • http://www.teaandbecky.com/ Tea and Becky Invitations

    I’m loving the gold foil envelope liners. Nice touch.

  • Liz

    I love the advice but how do I kindly tell my guests that the wedding is adults only (no children or babies). I love my nieces and nephews and extended family but I want my wedding to be fun, relaxing and enjoyable where everyone can let loose and have a break from normalcy.

  • Alexandra Pettinato

    I definitely pinned that invite to my wedding invitation board. I’m designing my wedding invites now :) haha.. I just finalized the wording yesterday actually! These tips are great though!

    Alex from http://www.polkadottedpixels.com

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