Ask Lauren: My Friends are All Engaged!

Ask Lauren: My Friends are All Engaged!

I hope everyone is enjoying my Ask Lauren series. One of my favorite things about posting these blogs is the conversation it sparks in the comments. You guys provide so many great insights and offer such great advice. It’s truly heart-warming to see how this site has become such a supportive and nurturing place. I feel like that’s hard to come by online. Anyway, enough of my rant… Today I’m spearheading a topic that I think many of you might be able to relate to (and if not now, perhaps in the future). This submission was sent to me via private message on my profile page so our girl will remain anonymous. Here’s her question:

Two of my best friends just got engaged and my boyfriend and I of 5 years just broke up. It’s such bad timing! I’m 25 years old and feel like I’m behind now that my friends are moving forward with their lives and getting married and I’m back at square one (not that my life depends on a guy or being in a relationship or anything). Now when I go out with my friends on the weekend I feel like I’m always the third wheel and I’m having a hard time meeting a guy, especially because of the fact that all of my friends are in relationships and I am pretty much the only single girl left in our group. I work crazy hours and I cannot imagine how I’ll ever meet anyone at this rate.

What should I do? Not to be cheesy, but is it acceptable to join an online dating site? I just have no time…

First things first, NO—it is not cheesy to join a dating site. I have several friends who have tried them and while they aren’t for everyone, sometimes they are a great way to meet someone. I don’t think it’s unusual to be nervous about feeling a bit behind relationship-wise when you are in your mid-twenties. One thing to keep in mind while you are attending weddings, showers and other events celebrating your friends’ relationships is that these aren’t things you are missing out on. They are things you have to look forward to. I was in a similar place last year. Twenty-five, newly single and helping one of my best friends plan her wedding, so I know how it can feel. It can be hard to feel like you have to start from scratch when you have invested so much time with a person, but shortly after my break up I realized something: I wasn’t losing the chance to have love—I was getting the opportunity to do it all over again.

Another thing to keep in mind is that your best friends’ husbands have single friends and that can be a great way to meet guys. So let your friends know that you are looking to be set up. Lastly, there is no shame in being a third wheel. Don’t think of it as being the only single person in a group. Instead, think of it as having multiple wingmen (or women) with you and since they are all attached there is no competition.

What do you guys think? Sound off in the comments below.

XO Lauren

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  • Deanne Castro

    Great advice Lauren!

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  • Sarah Heckle

    “”…these aren’t things you are missing out on. They are things you have to look forward to.””

    Such a good point! Timing is different for anyone when it comes to these things, and everything will fall into place when it’s meant to happen :) – lessons learned from Breakfast at Tiffany’s!

  • Melissa Panici

    This is great advice Lauren! I agree completely especially with the fact that this girl has something to look forward to. A new chance at love and even though your 5 year relationship ended, it’s because there is something bigger and better for you out there. Be very patient and Mr. Right will some day sweep you off your feet. If you rush too quickly on this, you might end up settling for the first guy who treats you nice. Just be patient!! You will find the one you will be with and marry:) Good luck girl!

  • Elaine

    PERFECT advice. I’m going through the same thoughts/struggles. And believe it or not, there are so many of us out there. I just opened up to a friend about it and had no idea she was feeling the same way. So know that you are definitely not alone. Also, I’m a very strong believer in everything happens for a reason. While that reason might not always be obvious, just have faith that everything happens exactly as it should. :)

  • Amy Breckenridge

    i’m 26 and lots of my friends are moving in with their boyfriends, getting engaged and getting married. some people from my hometown already have 1 or 2 kids!! it’s hard not to feel like youre moving too slowly or doing something wrong. i have a boyfriend, but still, i sometimes wonder, why don’t we live together? why don’t i have a sparkly diamond? when will i get to go wedding dress shopping? but every relationship moves at a different pace, and forcing something you’re not ready for will only create problems. i’m sure this reader will find the guy she’s meant to be with, whether it takes 4 months or 4 years! what’s meant to be will be!


  • Kaitlyn Lammers

    I was totally against online dating, until I found myself alone in a new city, with crazy long hours, and no girlfriends for 300 miles. But signing up for Eharmony was the best decision I’ve ever made. I met my fianc

  • Trish Landos

    I was in a similar situation a couple of few years back. I was out with my college roomies: four were newly married, one newly engaged, and I was newly single after a three year relationship. While they were talking about casseroles and family planning, I was silently brooding and thinking about how I lived in such a different world. I felt as if we would never have anything in common again. Boy was I wrong! Shortly after that night, my Mr. Right appeared from what seemed like out of nowhere and I was blissfully swept off my feet. My engaged friend’s wedding was the first time that my friends got to meet my future husband. I was 26 when I met him and we were married three weeks before my 28th birthday.

    Lauren’s advice is perfect. Enjoy your friends’ happiness and know that your day will soon arrive. Learning to embrace your life and truly accept who you are can only lead to happiness. Great things happen when you least expect it!

  • Karie Obremski

    Lauren you put it simple and correct! It is another chance at love, and finding BETTER, STRONGER love. There is no shame in being a bit older and single, it just makes you more open to meeting new people and that could mean a better thing for your life. Sometimes, being with the same person for too long can make you resent not being able to see other people (This is not right in all cases). Sometimes it is good to seek a new man to view how the ocean is! There are many fish in the sea so it is important to swim around until you know for sure. (:


  • Ambi s

    Such a good answer! It used to be such an issue for me being the only singleton among my friend group, but I began to take the attitude that it just meant I had more to look forward to later :-)

    Bombay Rose

  • Jessica Knight

    Such a good answer Lauren! I’m 22 years old and whenever I’m single my two best friends have boyfriends. And whenever I’m seeing someone – they’re single and ready to mingle! Whenever I’m feeling down I tell myself: “”The best is yet to come””. You just need to be patient. Something amazing is always coming your way.

  • Kelby Peachey

    Cheers to that Lauren!!


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  • Kate Kubs

    With most of us growing up to a set of divorced parents, we are waiting longer to really consider if this is the right step. Although its difficult breaking up with someone of 5 years, you have learned a lot about yourself and what you want out of your partner. Although a lot of my own friends are getting married and starting a family, the thrill of going to these events and not having to be bogged down by a boyfriend, to make sure he is enjoying himself–or worse–getting the “”what’s next”” questions from friends and family really allows you to do your own thing and own it.

    Although your life is not in line with your friends, if they are true friends, you will never appear to be the third wheel. Take your time to find someone that loves you with all your faults.

    And living in a new city, I am absolutely a proponent of online dating. I think it may have been attached to a stigma for older generations, but for us, we’ve grown up flirting on AIM–so it’s only a natural progression ;)

    Best of luck to you!

  • Sabrina Abbasi

    30 is the new 20 and 40 is the new 30! I’m 32 In my mid to late 20’s I was in a similar situation, everyone around me was getting married and especially when they started having babies it was harder to deal… When my long term relationship ended, I really felt like there was no hope! But, it truly was the best thing that could have ever happened to me! I started doing all the things that I’d given up doing and started putting me first and doing the things that I wanted to do, had parties instead of sitting on the couch, travelled more. I got happier and eventually started dating… That was hard! Got taken advantage of, messed around but focused on my career too, as a distraction and in three years worked my way up the ladder, even started my own fashion line Jameelah…

    I didn’t want to turn 30 in Feb 2010! Had another break up, was giving up on men. I signed up to a few dating sites… One night in April 2010, whilst watching the hangover and drowning my sorrows in Ben and Jerry’s I got an email, we chatted for a few days and said we’d go on a date, last minute I nearly cancelled… I couldn’t be bothered… I didn’t even really make an effort, threw a dress over jeans! After a week he proposed, in Nov 2010 I got married and my baby boy was born in Sept 2011. All under a year!

    A complete whirlwind, but absolutely perfect! So, don’t give up hope, everything happens for a reason, enjoy every single moment! It will happen and your time will come! But, you’ll never get these days and years back! So, live and love your life. Other people will pick up on your vibes too, including guys and when youre happy and content within yourself, you will find it :)

    All the best ladies, life throws us little tests, so we appreciate the moments, x x.

  • Tiffani Stuart

    “” I wasn’t losing the chance to have love–I was getting the opportunity to do it all over again.”” – Thank you for that, Lauren!

    I am 31yrs and at times, I still feel like the 25yrs old poster. I’ve been broken up for a year now, and I have had a horrible time trying to find myself back in the dating world. It’s just hard, b/c we were planning on spending the rest of our lives together– at least that was the illusion, he led me to believe. I’m still broken over it, but I’m healing everyday. I know I’m still not ready to date, yet but I just wanna say to the poster to keep her head up. Embrace this time, b/c when Mr. Right finally does come along, you wanna look back on years of freedom & time spent exploring- not wasted years of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Take this time to travel, pick up new hobbies & be free to do whatever! ;0)


    Great advice, Lauren. I’m really loving the “”Ask Lauren”” series!

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  • Dina Karivalis

    Great advice Lauren. It happens, I think it’s important to remember there are other girls out there in your situation so you don’t feel too alone.

    xo Dina

  • Norma Shea

    I feel like I am in the 1950s right now, when women aspired to be married and that was it. Why such focus on such an outdated tradition in only your mid-20s? Plus, your friends will probably be divorced before they are 30. (The divorce rate speaks for itself.) When women stop defining themselves by their ability to get married as soon as possible, then we will move forward and gain more respect. It is so silly to see so many 20-somethings focusing so much energy on fantasizing about wedding dresses. We are exploring Mars, there is a whole world out there, a whole universe, with so many wonderful things to experience, people to love, and connections to be made……..and you are concerned about finding ONE person to love you so that you can have a ring on your finger to show off and “”fit in?”” I guess I just don’t get it. The girl who wrote that should be THRILLED because she still has a whole life ahead of her with endless possibilities.

  • Jami Babcock

    It is amazing how relevant this article is to me in my life right now. I got out of a 5 year relationship about 6 months ago. My boyfriend and I had talked about marriage throughout but I eventually fell out of love and realized I wasn’t happy anymore.

    Wedding talk – I’m a bridesmaid in my cousin’s wedding next year, she had been with her boyfriend (now fiance) less time that my boyfriend and I had been together. I was so mad when they got engaged, but I am having fun helping her plan, I’ll be taking notes for my perfect wedding some day! :)

    I recently joined an online dating site too. I’ve talked to a few guys and went one a date. When someone first suggested it, I thought that I wasn’t that desparate, but then they made the point that there are tons of guys there that I would never run into just in my city. It’s worth a try.

    I turn 25 in a few weeks and I am honestly very excited to start the new chapter in my life!

  • MommaCat

    As the mom in the group, I can tell you that at 25 you really do have your life ahead of you. At 25, the same exact thing happened to me. I ended up making new friends to go out with, mostly people from work. I used the relationship as a basis for I really wanted in a man and in a relationship, and I decided not to settle for anything less. Most importantly, I wasn’t going to look for a man. I chose to live my life by doing whatever I wanted. I worked hard, traveled, rented winter ski houses, summer shore houses, whatever. When I least expected it, at 32, I met my husband at the ski lodge during happy hour and was married the next winter. There a ton of women having babies in their thirties. So, you won’t be alone there either. This is the time in your life to be absolutely selfish, because when marriage and babies come, it’s over. Everyone comes first before you from then on. Enjoy yourself and stop stressing!!!

  • Sol Sol

    Hi girlsss!!! you tend to get married really young in USA, here in argentina people get married around 30 years old!!! i have 15 friends, we are all around 25-26 years old!! and most of them, and i, have boyfriends, and only 2 got married but because they are super religious!!! a couple of them are single, and let me tell you: they are having the time of there life!!! some time i envy them…… hahahahaha

    You have the oportunity to enjoy all the extra time you have left after work for yourself!!! try hanging out with people who are single like you, if you find that difficult, get yourself some courage and go alone to pub, bar o even discos!!! its amazing!! i

  • Martin M

    Let me tell you as a man. Go out, and be brave to go to a guy you like and ask him for a drink or for his number. Sometimes we need a kick in our ass :) And yes, join a partner ship site. It is not cheesy!!! XOXO from Germany

  • Jennifer Sellen

    I was in the same position. Most of friends that are single live far away and the ones that do live close have boyfriends. So it was always hard to hang out with them and I hate being the third wheel. Its not that I didn’t like hanging out with them, it was the fact that I was alone and wanted someone. So I tried online dating and met my current boyfriend. We have been together for 8 months now and I am so happy. I highly recommend it!!

    FYI – make sure to meet that other person in a public place and never let anyone rush you into anything. I talked to my boyfriend for a month before officially meeting him. I feel that if you can keep a conversation on the phone then you’ll definitely be able to keep a conversation in person. Plus when you do meet them, it won’t be completely awkward because you’ve been talking to them for a month.

    Keep your fingers crossed for me ladies…. I hope this lasts!!! ;)

  • Jeanette Cornell

    I actually met my boyfriend now fiancee on myspace(huh what is that?!?). A lot of people are iffy on meeting people on the internet. I look at it this way…what is the difference of meeting someone online and if you meet someone for the very first time in a bar, at the movies, food joint, etc….you know nothing about them. By meeting someone online you can get to know the person first through emails, talking on the phone, talking on line before actually meeting them face to face. Def. give online dating a thing.

  • Diamenrose

    That’s a really nice advice Lauren.Currently I had a similiar problem. ON my friends birthday we wen’t out together with her boyfriend and another couple. I was the only one who was single and felt a little bit uncomfortable. However my conclusionjof this night was: there is nothing to feel uncomfortable for. That’s how it is- On someday you will take the same train. Enjoy your single life. Someone is waiting for you :-) On someday he will stand behind the door. However as long as you are single you should enjoy it.

  • Ana Castilho

    Great advice Lauren. Loved it!

  • Cassidy Short

    So true! But 25 is so young, I would not sweat it ;)



  • Fabio Ribeiro

    speak low if you speak love - Shakespeare
    Well, listen the song Soulmate by Natasha Bedingfield.

  • julie

    i am in the exact situation at the moment but all my friends are having babies and moving away!im 25 and i broke up with my boyfriend of 3years just before summer…at that exact time all my firends moved away and got pregnant. i dont mind being single i quite enjoy it,the only problem is firstly i have no one to go out at weekends to meet new guys but i dont have anyone to hang out with generally as they are tied up in their own lives!online dating isnt option for me as im from small town …feel bit lost as what to do to meet new friends/guys. have tried classes gym did not work. any help or sugesstion or support would be greatly appreciated!

  • Kayley Potter

    I think the most important thing is just to put yourself out there, and that should help with meeting new people. Plus you get to experience all the first date butterflies again. So fun!

  • Kasia Rymar

    I might not be 25 yet, but I do have a few friends who are already engaged and some even married! It makes me feel a little bad since I’m now single, but then I remember how much I love being single! I know it’ll all work out in the end. :)

  • christine popham

    So now how it feels, I’m nearly 26. and everyone I know is in a relationship ( so lucky haha), I been single for over 2 years :(

  • Nathalia

    I know that “”Now I have to start from scratch””-Feeling. When my ex and I broke up after three years I was 22 and felt like I never wanted to start dating again. So I didn’t immediately start dating again, but enjoyed the single life. Don’t feel pressured to find someone just because all of your friends are getting married. You need to find some single friends to hang out with and alternate them with your taken ones. I had the best times when I was single, went on holidays and to exotic locations with my friends or alone, flirted my shoes off and just looked at the world with open eyes. You can make all your decisions for yourself alone and that is a freedom you won’t have in a relationship and especially not when you get married and have babies. You can see and do whatever you like and that will help you develop so much and give you a lot of energy and inspiration for the future.

    And when the time comes and all that gets boring you will meet someone special, because you will meet him without feeling that you “”have to, so that you are not the only single person””, but because you want to and that will make all the difference.

    Use this chance for absolute freedom, adventure and development.

  • Lacie Blake

    None of my bestfriends are engaged or married yet, and we all have boyfriends going on 2 years, but I think the coolest thing with best friends is that they know you the best and that they’re not gonna just leave you out. If they invite you to come out on the weekend it’s beacuase they really want you to join! And like Lauren said it’s the best way to meet other guys! She has really good advice for you :) Take it!

  • Amy

    All my friends are in long-term relationships while I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years but I won’t let it get me down and I came up with ways to get over my break-up and being single.

  • Fauzy Aarts

    SO familliar…

    my old classmates are having babys, or getting married.. while im still single. Iam busy with weddings and having a family since i was 12, so it hurts me that they get what i want. recently i also joined a datingsite. got a looooot of intention but my eye fell on two boys. One who was living only 5 mins. away from me, and one who lives in America..

    The closest one doesnt know what he wants, he wants to hang out, but keeps on cancel the dates.

    Matter of fact today we talked about it through textmessage. guess what, he said he wanted to have some time off but he knew he was gonna regret it.. but that was bad luck for him..

    and here i am, eating my second chcolate bar, because i really wanted to get to know him.

    luckely i have my collegue who got me trough today.,

    you just gotta enjoy life and the right man will come along..

    although im not so patient anymore, and i want to start getting settled..

  • The good girl

    Oh, my situation is quite the opposite. I’m almost 20, most of my friends are in relationships and some of my former classmates have even got married! And then there’s me… never had a relationship and have no idea how to even get started. So many awkward situations – I like him, he doesn’t feel the same way, someone else wants to date me, I don’t feel the same way… it’s so frustrating! I’ve wanted to be with someone since I was a kid, but I guess life has other plans for me. That’s why I’m simply enjoying my single life, growing as a person to become the best I can be, and I trust that someday someone will come to me and we will both feel the same thing. I used to get really emotional about this, but now I’ve accepted it for what it is and I don’t feel bad because I get attention from some guys. It’s just not the right timing :)

  • Arlee Leegok

    Hi just curious.. I love love love your outfits that you wore on the Hills. Just curious if you would be willing to tell us where you got them.. specifically the really colorful dress you wore on the housewarming party in season 4. Also that big white shirt you wore on the day whitney walked the good morning america show. Please post this in a new question or maybe a new thread if i can’t ask here. I love your clothes. where do you usually shop? thank you!

  • julia alvim

    I want to say to the person that: You don’t need feel so bad, after all, 25 years is still young, relax! I’m sure everyone has felt like the last wheel, but it passes, everything is a matter of time … Here in Brazil, we say: “”There are evils that come to the right!”” That is, now you’re feeling well, but then other things will happen best … keep calm.

    Lauren, I loved this: “”I was not losing the chance to have love, I was getting the opportunity to do it all over again.””

    Sorry to all my “”English”” but, as you have seen I’m from Brazil and is more difficult to express myself in another language .. I hope you have understood me.

  • Em


    I understand what you are going through, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend of seven years at 25 (I’m 27 now) and I didn’t really know what to do with myself..I panicked and ended up pushing myself into relationships that weren’t for me..just because I felt uncomfortable being alone.

    Then I sat back and thought of all the positives…

    1) That seven year relationship I had (like the 5 year one you had) has provided me with experience that I can bring into a new relationship. I am able more now to know what I want and don’t want in a guy and act accordingly. You are more likely to end up with someone who is suitable for you.

    2) After mid to late twenties is the perfect time to find a relationship. You are mature and settled in your career, you are hot and probably have more of a grasp in terms of who you are as a person. This all provides an excellent basis for a successful relationship.

    3) You have the opportunity now to enjoy the single life, to get the buzz of having first kisses and the getting to know him do what you want without having to factor someone else into it for a while.

  • Toby Trachy

    Mid-twenties is always a difficult time because so many people are in a number of transitions in their lives. A lot of my friends are also engaged, married, or starting families. While this can be frustrating at times, use this time to learn about yourself and what you really want.

    I look to my friends and their significant others a lot to help me learn what I want and don’t want in a relationship (especially a marriage!). When you know what you really want, you are much more likely to be happier when you find your next relationship!

  • Lauren Coulter

    I think it’s always a good idea to ask your friends guys to hook you up. I totally understand the situation, though. I’m 23 and a senior in college. All my friends are getting engaged or are already married and my boyfriend of 2 years gets freaked out when we talk about it. I think if you find a great guy, then wonderful. If not then focus on working on your career and making you the person that you want to be!

  • Linh Ly

    Don’t feel bad that you’re 25 and newly single! I’m almost 25 and honey you are still so young. Enjoy life now in the present as it is! One day you’re going to look back after you are married with kids and want to think I had so much fun during those years. My advice would be to enjoy your me time now because once you have relationship, get married, and have kids those times are hard to come around. Travel with a friend or family, go on a road tip, this is the time to do what you want! This is the time to accomplish the items on your bucket list. Of course it’s nice to have someone to share it with, but you always need things that you’ve done yourself so in the future when you meet someone you can tell them these great adventures that you’ve been on. i hope you figure things out!


  • 50 Shades of Me

    I am in some what of a similar situation. I think you will grow from your past relationship and the break up and end up happy and in a good relationship. I am also 25 and have been in a relationship for 8 years. Even being in this relationship, it’s really difficult for me to see old classmates and friends getting engaged, married, and having kids while I’m in the same position I have been in for years. While I’m working on my career and wanting to get engaged, he seems to be comfortable keeping things the way they are now. Even though I love him very much, I sometimes wonder if we should go our separate ways. I feel like I want more out of life than he does and have been really feeling like he is holding me back from the life I want. Lauren, do you have any advice for me?

  • Abby De La Rosa

    Hey Lauren big fan of your designs and props to you for making them very afforadble at Kohls..I wear your label day in and day out. just curious though on your new line you have a laced chiffon top, its long sleeve with high low cut,. but you dont have it in white, do you know when it will come out to stores. ive been checking their website for weeks now but nothing. you offer other colors except the white.


  • Michael Dorsey

    U will be married in 2013. 100% sure. Be ur self cuz u r the best and followed by so many good people.

  • Tha Manalive

    Hi Lauren, you are a naturally beautiful woman who I would love to see more of on televison and magazine covers. Why don’t you do your own modeling for clothes and shoes on your site.

  • Sarah Chase

    As a married woman, I hear it from my husband’s male friends and co-workers a lot: “”got any single girl friends?””

    Sadly for them, my friends are either married, or in a committed relationship (one masterfully creafted by me).


  • annie

    gurl i know exactly what you are talking about….most of my friends are either married on dating or engaged !! ANd I am ofcourse the only one left behind… I feel so alone even though my friends have been so great to me !! I feel like I am the third wheel at any party or get together….My parents want to get me married but I just broke up w my ex like last year and we had been dating for three years…three years feels like eternity so I knw exactly how you feel…

  • Paige

    I’ve definitely had the same feelings before. I’m at that age where it seems like everyone is starting relationships and getting engaged. It can be a defeating feeling but it is definitely not the end of the world. If there is one thing I’ve learned, it’s that everyone has different timing. Nobody’s life is the same. The perfect medicine is staying positive and never shutting the door on any options. Keep an open mind. Sometimes someone finds exactly what they’re looking for when they least expect it.

  • Stefani

    I can totally relate! Many of my friends were getting really serious with their boyfriends or engaged. I was the single, 3rd wheel and was having no luck meeting “”guys””. I prefer the term ‘handsome gentlemen.’ I decided to join an online dating site when a close friend had success with it. I was super nervous about it at first, but I have now been with my boyfriend (who I met on for nearly two years! I am 26 and he is 31. Don’t worry girl, you are young and your time will come. Spend your time having fun, smiling, and being beautiful because that is when you are most attractive and more likely to meet Mr. Right!

  • Emma

    HI, I can definitely relate to this! I too was 25 when I split up with my boyfriend of 8 years, and we were engaged!! I felt like my whole life that I had planned out was gone and what was I supposed to do now? I was really lost and everyone I knew was getting married or having babies and things like that and I felt really left behind and didn’t know what to do. In the end I just excepted it and started to focus on what I wanted to do in life and making myself happy for a change! A few months later I ended up with a great guy who I am still with and we have been together 3 years now! I still have married friends and people getting engaged and having babies but it doesn’t worry me anymore, I’m happy in my relationship and I know deep down he’s the one for me but I’m in no rush, it will happen when it’s meant to! And a lot of my friends who did get married or have babies have now split up so marriage isn’t everything! Just be grateful for what you have and things will happen naturally, just enjoy yourself while your waiting for it to happen!

  • Catie Smith

    Girl, you are still young you have plenty of time left to get married and start a life with the man of your dreams! He is out there trust me. Going through a break up can be pretty damn tough, but just let it sink in for awhile. Keep working, and keep doing what youre doing, just wait awhile for that Mr. Right he’ll be to your rescue soon enough. ;)

  • Lyn

    I broke up with my fiance 2 years ago. We remain the best of friends. Given that Im older(41) I used to feel that time was running out. I was watching girls that I used to look after, grow up and get married, have kids etc…it was depressing. People would say “”But you and so and so are so good together, you’re the best of friends, why not just be together””

    I came to realise that it doesnt matter who is getting engaged around me. Why would I want to be engaged because everyone else is? Of course I’d love to be engaged and planning a wedding, but Im never going to put myself in a situation if it doesnt feel right. My ex and I are so blessed that we have this close friendship(something that is very rare after a break up, even though it was a mutual decision), and we both know that had we stayed together, we probably wouldnt have what we have now.

    Dont get me wrong, Im SO putting vibes out there for a great man to come into my life :-) LOL, but in the meantime, Im happy to celebrate friends, family and the love that surrounds us.

  • Femme25

    Your story sounds so familiar…just have to keep moving on and upward, that’s what I keep telling myself. My friends also live really far from me so I always feel like I am missing out, sometimes it’s okay to sit at home with some take out and watch a movie.

  • Lauren McCracken

    I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years, whom I live with. I need to gracefully bow out of our shared apartment and into another but I am super anxious and financially strapped. I need some girl support!

    • Bianca

      hugs! I know how much trying to find an apt. quickly & on a budget sucks, but I am so happy you are not living a lie. I think that is a good trait and will see you through more than you know!

  • Denisse md

    Someday you will know someone that will make u understand why it didn’t worked whit anyone before!!

  • AnselSf

    You’ll get past it, I promise!! :)

  • Kelbel

    It seems to me there are more single women (at 25 yrs of age) than women in relationships! It is NOT a bad thing! We are at the prime of our lives, figuring ourselves out, and when the right guy is in our life, he will add to our life (not cause doubt or drama). He will be encouraging and supportive. Until this happens, we need to learn to embrace and love our lives! Go with the flow and enjoy the present! <3

  • soul2urheart

    Great advice! I stopped thinking that way and appreciate what I have and the freedom I have living the single life. Also its great to know you have great friends who don’t leave you when they enter a relationship. That’s a great love (friendship).

  • Chastity Martin

    “”Been there, done that.”” It was tough, but looking back, it was well worth the wait. I was 33 when I “”found”” the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. Now that obstacle’s out of the way, I am feeling behind because at 36, just about everyone I know has children but myself and that is hard for me.

  • Nicole

    I am 30 years old and single, while all my friends are starting to get married… Since my ex left me 2 years ago I wasnt able to get a new boyfriend. I used that time to grow as a person, I went to the gym, I went back to school and started my own art company! So I can’t say I’m in bad shape at all, but I am longing so BAD to be in a relationhip. I don’t think there is nothing wrong to want a man in your life, I hate these women who are all about being “”independant”” as if love wasn;t an important part of life. I am an independant succesful woman and I do want love and I wanto get married and have children. I am 30 and a half, and it makes me so sad I can’t find anyone I want to open myself to … I think my ex fucked me up and there is something wrong with me :(

  • Asle Holmer

    I hate to say this i have to cos even of it feels wrong its something i had to do.Some people say if a door closes another opens but i say that is just a fancy way of dealing with the pain we feel cos really if we loss something or someone so dear, we can never really get a replacement cos nothing will ever seem to fit.Well that was just how i felt when my wife wanted out of a eleven years marriage with beautiful kids.As ashamed and as sorry as i am, it was alll my fault.I made our marriage almost come to an end but glade it didn’t all thinks to Mutton Osun a magic guy or rather spell caster as most people call it online.Its amazing how one mistake can take away all you have worked hard for in just a blink.Just a moment of weakness that made me cheat on my wife, would have been the end of all my happiness and my family.Most people reading this may think a guy cheats on his wife and does all he can not to loss her.I know what come to the mind first is, if he really loved her as he claim why cheat in the first place? Honestly for experience you just don’t make up your mind to want to be unfaithful to your other half ie wife or girlfriend, it just happens like something or lets say some kind of impulse just take control and make you do even when at that moment you know you gonna regret it forever.This is how best i can explain it but i know one thing after i did it, i realized how much i loved my wife and at the same time how much i betrayed her. It didn’t stay hiden for so long she found out and she lost it all isaw it clearly she still loved me so much cos in her eyes all i could see was deep pain and a thick cut in her heart even when she kicked me out and wanted a divorce.I lovec this woman with all my heart heart and was really not going to let her go.As i said i asked a spell caster Mutton Osun to help me restore my marriage and my life cos really he was my last option to happiness again. His spell made the subconscious of her that always loved me selflessly surface again as he explained what ever he did help a lot as other article i read about him said, he only asks for materials for the spell and if it may arise extra money to ship the spell package to you. He is honest and trustworthy one of the only good help out there. IF you may contact do it with this email [email protected]

  • susana

    My Name is Susan williams , From United States . I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called Dr Dahiru has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell, I was married to this man called williams we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email, then you won’t believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this and bring my lost husband back, and after a month I miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the great Dr Dahiru for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through any of this problems listed below: (1) If you want your ex back. (2) if you always have bad dreams. (3) You want to be promoted in your office. (4) You want women/men to run after you. (5) If you want a child. (6) You want to be rich. (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever. (8) If you need financial assistance. (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money (10) Cure for HIV – you can contact hem via: email [email protected] OR YOU CAN AS WELL EMAIL ME TO CONFIRM IT TRUE MY EMAIL [email protected]

  • Tainia Lami

    I’ve known Johnson for years, When we finally got together things were kind of weird so we broke up which was in February of 2011 In June of 2012 he and I recently got back together and we were together until march of 2013 which he told me he was not interested in relationship again During that time I changed completely, I wasn’t eating,I was sleeping a lot, I wasn’t talking to anybody, I cried a lot,I’m so depressed and stressed out that I’m scared I’m going to end up in the hospital because of all the stress and depression until one day i search online on getting love tips because I Love & care about him deeply and I just want us to be together as a couple again and I want us to last forever Google recommend me [email protected] that he will solve my relationship problem then Dr Osaze told me he will come back to me between 48hrs after he cast spell on him never believe it until my fiance called me on the phone and told me he want us to come back and live happy together forever , Am so happy now that DR Osaze, help me bring Johnson back to me. Thanks so much( Dr Osaze) his email:[email protected]

  • Bradley Speck

    I and my boy friend as been separated for a long period, I cam across different spell caster and they were all unable to bring my lover back. I was so sad and almost gave up on him when i met a spell man called DR OLOKUM, who helped me get my lover back. Ever since then i have been so happy and couldnt believe it would happen. He also helped me with success spell, I have been living happily with my lover now and will be getting married soon. Here is his contact if you need his help. [email protected]

  • Thynaya Williams

    sonia After being in relationship with emma for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by reffering him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email:
    [email protected] you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS:dr



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